Sometimes ‘neediness’ can feel overwhelming.
It’s easy to get frustrated and want to throw in the towel when it comes to friends or family that seem perpetually stuck in a victim mentality. They might blame others for their problems, seemingly unable to take responsibility for getting help. And of course it’s not always that simple. Sometimes life is so overwhelming or our health so poor that even getting out of bed feels like an almighty battle. And sometimes we’re the ones who never feel like we can move forward with our lives.
I think emotional health is not measured by how needy you are, but how (and who) you ask for your needs to be met…
I think seeing ourselves as the answer to our problems is a great start (though it can take some work to be able to do this). There has to be a balance between asking others to meet all our needs, and remaining completely independent of people, walls up.
People that know how to ask for help in a healthy way also know their deep value as people. They know they are worthy of good things, and that they have a lot to offer too. They don’t ‘play the martyr’, always complaining about how much they have to do, and how bad things are. Instead, they assertively ask for the support they need, while meeting many of their own daily needs as well. Sounds good, doesn’t it?
I’m still on this journey. In the past I’ve tended to swing between trying to conquer the world on my own, which results in frustration and resentment… and expecting too much of people, and blaming them for my struggles. But it’s been a liberating exercise to learn that I don’t have to battle on alone, and being direct about what I need from others saves a lot of drama.
But even better than that, Jesus is truly able to meet my every need, every minute of every day. All I need to do is ask Him.
He won’t abuse my vulnerability and neediness. He will supply without being domineering. He will bless me beyond my imagination if I let him…
He is not a genie in a bottle, but a deeply relational Saviour who gently walks beside me, up and down every mountain that I face. My very best friend, who gives beyond measure, and loves it when I lift my hands to Him.
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will
be opened to you.”
“[He] is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his
power that is at work within us.”