Don’t neglect the small stuff

“It has long been an axiom of mine that the little things are infinitely the most important,” wrote Sir Arthur Conan Doyle in The Memoirs of Sherlock Holmes.

In Sherlock’s case, the most minute details are often the biggest clues to solving a mystery.

And it’s also true of life. The gestures, the moments, the glances exchanged… these often are signs of how a relationship is going and how someone truly feels.

The small things really are the big things.

A smart man, for example, will learn that each small act of kindness around the home – whether it’s wiping a bench-top, a baby’s bottom, or a dirty dish – is not small at all in a woman’s eyes.

And a smart woman will know that, if her partner’s love language is ‘touch’, for example, each shoulder massage, hug, or stroke of the arm is far from a waste of time.

The little things really are the big things.

My husband has been away for a week, and I’ve been on my own with two challenging kids. In this time the small things have amounted to a massive time of blessing. My best friend in another state offered me extra prayer support and phone conversations while he’s away. A close friend cooked me lasagne to take the edge off mealtimes. Two friends at church offered to babysit so I could go out for coffee with that friend. A father who has three sons of his own gave me a break by picking up my son and taking him to the movies with his family. A dear church friend gave me a necklace she’d made herself – just because. And my mum came over one night, just to help me put the kids to bed and read them stories.

God uses each small – or large – gesture of love to reveal his heart for his children. God uses us in other people’s lives.

An act of kindness is never too small to bother with, don’t you think?

“I remember little things, like how salt from the ocean eroded your steering wheel. The way your eyes smirked and in reality, every word you ever said to me…” ― Dominic Riccitello.

“Handle the little things well; for they become the great things.” ― Flo Falayi.

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  1. Oh my, this is rich! I so agree–the little things are the BIGGEST. And touch, little touches–that is what I hunger for, being alone. Sounds like you had an overflow of marvelous blessings–that lasagna alone, is very special. God bless you.

  2. Oh my, Ali, what a beautiful and timely message for us! Thank you ever so much for reminding me it is the little things. What a blessing to know that when I can’t do big things! God bless you and yours!

  3. Oh, the little things are huge! The small kindnesses make a big difference both inside and outside the home. I’m glad you’ve got a great support group that was able to make the week a little easier for you 🙂

  4. Really glad to hear you’ve had lots of extra help =) Simon is away for 3 days so I’m at home with the 2 boys too. So far so good…


    1. Thanks Ange, God has looked after me so well 🙂
      I hope the time goes quick for you too, and that you’d know God’s peace. Thinking of you, and hope you enjoyed the Lau’s visit.

  5. Well the Lord said as much too, I suppose: ‘Gather up the fragments that nothing be lost.’ If everything is accounted for, then this includes as u suggest all the details.

    Kinda like the old adage- ‘it’s the journey, not the destination.’ All the small stuff stuff along the way make for a memorable trip.

    happy new year btw GG

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