It’s so easy to judge people.
So often we stand at a distance and make decisions and conclusions which may or may not be ‘true’ about their lives.
We can do this with complete strangers, and with those closest to us.
We might analyze and speculate and ruminate. We allow assumptions to take up residence, and sometimes respond in far-from-loving ways to those who most need care.
We judge without even asking; listening; hearing… Sometimes we’re so solutions orientated that people get hurt – really hurt.
The intention to help can lead to massive wounds, and that’s the last thing we wanted…
What about you?
Ever wished someone would just stand beside you – or look you in the eyes – and listen? I mean, truly listen?
Sometimes just repeating back what your friend is saying is all that’s needed.
Responding with things like, “That really hurts, doesn’t it?”
You might think you’re not helping, but you are.
And don’t worry – the solutions will come for them.
Sometimes we just need to be heard first. Where we’re at.
And this non-judging ‘ear’ might just give them the strength to start believing they can make decisions – healthy decisions – for a better future.
“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.” – Scott Peck.